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"A.J., your ebook about Verbal Abuse helped me to realize so much. I needed to know that I was placing myself in danger and that verbal abuse is not something to minimize. I also needed to know that toxic relating isn't love. Thanks so much for writing and making that ebook available."

-- Duke P., Ireland

"I would highly recommend A.J. Mahari as life coach especially for those who are non borderline. I worked with A.J. over the course of 6 months as I struggled to end my relationship with my BPD girl friend. A.J. was compassionate, supportive, and so patient with me. I don't think I'd be where I am today without A.J.'s support."

-- Marty Green, Ontario, Canada

"I totally recommend that anyone who wants to really understand BPD buy A.J. Mahari's ebooks and audio programs. Along with all her stuff on the web they are even more insightful and informative. After purchasing A.J.'s products I did some life coaching with her too. A.J. doesn't just write about BPD, she has lived it. She has lived both sides of it. She is an amazing life coach too. With A.J.'s support I am making my way through the pain and grief of having loved someone with BPD and coming to terms with the reasons for the relationship and my need to let go."

-- Rick Meyers, Scotland

BPD Recovery and Stigma Video Lecture

BPD Recovery and Stigma Video Lecture

Price: $12.99

86 minutes

In this video lecture given to a group of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (also attended by some of their loved ones) A.J. Mahari talks about how she was diagnosed and the way that she encountered stigma and her thoughts and feelings about stigma versus the importance of understanding one has BPD and what that means for recovery from BPD. Mahari also points out how much of the stigma that has surrounded BPD still exists in many areas today.

Mahari talks about how she not only encountered and suffered from the stigma of Borderline Personality Disorder when she had BPD but how 14 years after her recovery she can and does still encounter some residual stigma. She emphasizes, however, that she is not ashamed now, nor has she ever been, to be someone who had BPD. Mahari truly believes that while others may still stigmatize BPD, those with BPD do not have to be or feel ashamed to have this diagnosis.

You do not have to take on the judgment of others with regard to this pointing out that the shame of BPD stigma meets squarely with the shame of the unresolved abandonment trauma of those with BPD.

There are too many lives at stake for the still pervasive stigma about Borderline Personality Disorder to continue.

Mahari talks about how she knew she was making a conscious decision and choice in the work that she does to stand up and be as stigmatized as it takes to raise awareness about BPD and to help others still needing to find their way out of Borderline Personality Disorder.

Mahari firmly believes that in order to recover from BPD one has to know what one's challenge is and what the lay of the land is. She believes this based upon her own first hand experience of both having BPD and recovering from it. One has to know they have BPD and what that truly means. Mahari asks the question, "How can one recover from something they don't know they have?"

Mahari also talks about an experience she had in the past, when she had BPD, of being told by a psychiatrist that she couldn't and wouldn't get better unless they found a better pill. Mahari firmly believes that there is a lot of misinformation and stigma in some of the emphasis put upon the "biology of BPD" and the push to in some circles to medicate and/or see some magical cure-all pill as the hope for the future. The future is now, for you, if you have BPD, number one. Secondly, Mahari knows it doesn't take a magical pill to recover. She encourages others to think about the implications of stigma in the rush to medication.

Mahari will inspire you, if you have BPD, to move beyond allowing anything to do with any remaining stigma about Borderline Personality Disorder effecting your choices or in any way inhibiting you from finding your own recovery.

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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

"There are 10 Key Facts at the heart of Borderline Personality Disorder that every non borderline needs to understand. To begin facing the facts of BPD and what it means to the non borderline, you have to first know what the facts really are. Not just the traits that define BPD but the facts of what the experience is and why it is so painful for family members, loved ones, and relationship partners."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "Facing 10 Key Facts About BPD - For Non Borderlines"

"At the heart of the core wound of abandonment in BPD and its impact are many factors. Central among these factors however is the pain of loss. The pain of abandonment. The loss of authentic self."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "Understanding BPD - The Lost Self - The Impact of the Core Wound of Abandonment"