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"I totally recommend that anyone who wants to really understand BPD buy A.J. Mahari's ebooks and audio programs. Along with all her stuff on the web they are even more insightful and informative. After purchasing A.J.'s products I did some life coaching with her too. A.J. doesn't just write about BPD, she has lived it. She has lived both sides of it. She is an amazing life coach too. With A.J.'s support I am making my way through the pain and grief of having loved someone with BPD and coming to terms with the reasons for the relationship and my need to let go."

-- Rick Meyers, Scotland

"I didn't think anyone else could possibly know or understand what I was going through. I also didn't think anyone could be so compassionate and patient with me as A.J. Mahari was as my life coach. She gave me support, information, and tools. Tools that have enabled me to truly find myself and to set and achieve my goals. Thanks so much for everything A.J.! -- Mandy"

-- M., Ontario, Canada

"I bought A.J. Mahari's ebook, on Loneliness. Wow! So much insightful and informative stuff. I had not ever really thought about there being anything positive about loneliness. You taught me so much. I have been able to make some wonderful changes in my life because your ebook helped me to learn that the place to start was with my attitude toward and thoughts about loneliness. Thanks so much A.J. and may God continue to bless all the work that you do."

-- Sue Johnson, Australia

4 BPD Loved Ones Ebooks - Puzzle Mystery of Hope & Splitting and BPD Audio Program Bundle

4 BPD Loved Ones Ebooks - Puzzle Mystery of Hope & Splitting and BPD Audio Program Bundle

Price: $80.00

4 BPD Loved Ones Ebooks - Puzzle Mystery of Hope & Splitting and BPD Audio Program Bundle

This bundle of ebooks and 2 audio programs includes:

Punishment and Revenge in Borderline Personality Disorder - The Unmastered Talionic Impulse

- What Loved Ones Need To Know

This ebook includes 5 chapters and 161 pages of in depth explanation for loved ones of punishment and revenge in Borderline Personality Disorder. In this ebook, along with a tremendous amount of insight and understanding about punishment and revenge manifested by many with BPD Mahari shares her own experience in her recovery of mastering the unmastered talionic impulse at the heart of Bordelrine Personality Disorder.

This ebook also features:

  • 7 Illusions That Guide the Borderline False Self to punish others
  • The Karpman Drama Triangle and Cycles of BPD punishment
  • The Child/Victim Archetypes & BPD Punishment and Revenge
  • 20 Foundational Keys of The Talionic Impulse For Revenge in BPD
  • Freud’s Myth of the Primal Horde as relates to BPD Punishment
  • The 15 most common elements in Borderline Punishment Cycle
  • How Borderlines Punish - 7 Common Questions
  • Why Borderlines Punish - 7 Common Questions


The Dilemma on The Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder - Can Borderlines Love? Do Borderlines Feel Love?

The ebook, is 101 pages of must-read insight for the non borderline. If you are in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, significant other, friend, relative, you will want to read what A.J. Mahari reveals about Borderline Personality Disorder and love.

The Other Side Of Borderline Personality Disorder - Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance for Nons

This ebook, is 116 pages of insightful must read information that will help Non-Borderlines free themselves emotionally from the chaotic and painful rollercoaster ride of loving (or having loved) someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.

This ebook consists of eight chapters that will enhance the journey of anyone who has (or has had) a borderline in his/her life. A.J. writes insightfully about how Non-Borderlines can free themselves from the chaotic painful drama of the borderline in their lives through the practice of Mindfulness and Radical Acceptance.

FULL CIRCLE - Lessons For Non Borderlines

A.J. Mahari was in the non-borderline role as a child with 2 parents with Borderline Personality Disorder. She shares the lessons that experience taught her. She then grew and developed and was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. Years later, at the age of 38 she recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder. Then six years after her recovery from BPD she found herself in a complicated and most unusual significant other relationship with an untreated borderline. Mahari has experienced it all and come out of it all on the other side, healthier, stronger, more insightful and much wiser for the lessons. This ebook is a must read for anyone in a relationship with someone with BPD.

The ebook, "Full Circle" features 85+ lessons for Non Borderlines to think about, gain some insight to apply to whatever part of their journey, on the other side of BPD, they are presently experiencing. It contains 6 chapters and 128 pages.


Splitting in Borderline Personality - An Undersanding For Loved Ones

In the face of the reality of the splitting that is a hallmark of BPD, loved ones will benefit from coming to realize what the cycles of idealization and devalution that are the result of the cognitively distorted black-and-white all-or-nothing polarized thinking of those with Borderline Personality Disorder.

In this audio program, A.J. Mahari, offers loved ones of those with Borderline Personality Disorder insight and understanding about the central defense mechanism of splitting in BPD and what that means for relationships. Mahari also talks about the importance of loved ones learning to radically accept what borderline splitting really is and means in terms of who the person with BPD in your life really is and/or isn't.

Tracks in This Audio Program include:

Track 1:  The Roots and Anatomy of Borderline Splitting
Track 2:  The Powerlessness of Loved Ones to Rescue a person with BPD
Track 3:  Whose problem is it really? Why does it feel like your fault?
 Track 4: Radical Acceptance of the Powerlessness to Change or Control Borderline Splitting
 Track 5: Splitting and the Non Borderline's Experience of BPD - What About You?


The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder


The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of Borderline Personality Disorder For Non Borderlines

In the audio program, "The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of BPD" A.J. Mahari, as only one who has been there can and made it back can, examines and explores the dilemma that non borderlines face when it comes the many faces of hope. This audio features a "non borderline" meditation/relaxation exercise.

A.J. Mahari © September 2008

Tracks in this audio program include:
Introduction: 20 Minutes

Track 1: 57 Minutes
Radical Acceptance to The Powerlessness of what the puzzle and mystery of hope is and the challenges it presents on the other side of Borderline Personality Disorder Equals Emotional Freedom

Track 2: 78 Minutes
The central dilemma that is the core of the puzzle of hope on the other side of bpd - Reasonable Hope versus False Hope

Track 3: 54 Minutes
Unraveling the mystery of hope on the other side of BPD - The Hope Trap

Track 4: 28 Minutes
Non Borderline Meditation/Relaxation - Finding Emotional Peace


All Audio Programs are in mp3 format. All Ebooks are in PDF format. Audio Programs and Ebooks are available for electronic download only upon purchase.


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Quotes From A.J. Mahari


"Hope for change and recovery in a loved one with BPD often causes non borderlines to compulsively focus on the borderline and try to fix him or her in ways that only increase the pain, suffering, and confusion for the non borderline. When is hope really hope? When is hope false hope? I talk about the different faces and consequences of hope. Hope is often one of the biggest hooks and traps for the non borderline and I explain why."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Audio Program, "The Puzzle and Mystery of Hope on the Other Side of BPD"

"The central dilemma of the non borderline presents you with a quandary that in and through its predicament reveals a puzzle that you then feel compelled to solve. The what-to-do conundrum is unearthed. Your pain, the pain of loving someone with BPD compels you to want to help and to want to fix the problem to restore a sense of connectedness that continues to be puzzling, painful, and illusive. Where is love in all of this?"

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Dilemma on the Other Side of BPD" - Borderline Love?

"If you have Borderline Personality Disorder you have met your one true enemy -- yourself -- namely, your false self to be much more specific. This false self becomes the shadow self experienced by those with BPD. The more you deny the Shadow Self, the more likely it is that you will be blind to your own faults and find those faults in others. Denying the false self, the shadow self, in BPD, only perpetuates your pain and suffering."

-- A.J. Mahari in her Ebook, "The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False in BPD"